Category Archives: Dating

Those Horrible Dating Profiles

We’ve all browsed those websites with singles, swiped through those apps, and simply spent time looking for the significant others.

But the thing that sells you most is that first picture you see. If it’s weird or a blank page, you are likely to swipe left or move on to the next profile.

So here are two common things that need to change on a profile:

  • Don’t put a picture of you and some guy up, unless there is a clear caption of who he is.
    It just leaves everyone wondering: “Who’s he?” “Why aren’t you dating him?” “Why are you on here if you already have a boyfriend?” Etc.
  • Unless you are a professional musician, don’t have your lead picture be of you playing a flute. It may be a nice hobby, and you may be really good at it…but if I put up a picture of me with an Xbox controller in my hand, would you be impressed?

You Get Out Of Dating What You Put Into It

One thing that any reader of my blog, or follower on social media, may notice is that I really don’t delve into my personal dating life in public forums. Mostly because it really isn’t anyone else’s business.

But I wanted to share a story that happened to me between myself and the girl who recently dumped me, and use it as a way for other people to learn that whatever you put into dating is what you should get in return.

I am a very open person, and if the person I am dating asks me a question, I generally don’t have a problem answering…because if you can’t trust the person you are dating, then you probably shouldn’t be dating them.

With this girl I was about 90% open, but that last ten percent was never going to happen until she opened up to me.
Yet when I’d ask her questions that I felt was relevant to our relationship, she’d say “I don’t think we are ready for that” or “I don’t like to talk about that, because it can drive people away”.

Now those excuses and reasons are all well and good…but she would constantly tell me “just be yourself and fully open with me”.

This hypocritical-ness cannot exist in a healthy relationship and be expected for everything to be okay long term. If you want the other person to open up and feel 100% comfortable with you, then you need to at least put 75-80%+ into it, and give them back the same things you are asking for.

Am I bitter that I was dumped? Not really. She did what she needed to do, regardless of stringing things along for six weeks.

I just wish I hadn’t wasted my time and money on someone that couldn’t just be themselves around me.